Please feel free to share my video. Our VBAC voices need to be heard and it's time people recognize that VBAC is a safe option even for women with more that one cesarean.
i have never understood the pain a c-section can cause. i have always thought that as long as the baby gets here safely then all is well. watching you go through this, hearing your story, getting to hear my mom's story as well, i finally understand. i am amazed by your strength and determination. i could sense a peace about you the other day, a different paige than i have ever known, and i think this is the reason. i love you so much and i am so happy that you trusted your intuition, your body and most of all your dreams.
yup. It got me too. As you know I have also had the 2 c-sections. I've never gotten to experience laboring at all. With our (my husbands) decision not to have any more children I feel a sense of great sadness. A loss of something I was deprived. My c-sections were so devastating. I have had a hard time explaining this to him, and when I do it has been met with the logical answer of "we should not have another child to raise and pay for, and you to go through a bunch of pain and worry and babyhood again, just to try and get the outcome of a birth that you want". I see his point somewhat, but still.... my pain, anger, and resentment go on. So Paige, you rock the stratosphere sister! I am so glad for you. So glad. If you are able to blog about the peace you have found we would most love to read about it. :) *hugs*
First, congratulations! A thought that might enable those of you who have not had the birth experience you wanted to find more peace with it: Those of us who have never given birth to a live, healthy baby have a very different perspective. I gave birth to my daughter at 8 months, having known for the last 4 of those months that she would die. I would have gladly taken any kind of birth experience, whatever the pain or emotional consequences, if it had meant my daughter was born alive and healthy. I don't say this to make anyone feel bad--each of us has our own feelings based on our own experiences, and there is nothing wrong with any of those feelings. Each is valid. I post this only to offer a different perspective.
Jennifer, I'm sorry to hear about your daughter. Of course all of us mothers would take any birth experience we were given if it were essential for the health of our baby. It doesn't mean that we can't or shouldn't grieve for the birth that we wanted and lost though. The problem is that so many doctors are actually putting baby's and mother's lives at risk by the common use of induction and cesarean. It is a proven fact that natural birth is safest choice for a normal pregnancy.
I do realize that I am extremely lucky to have healthy living children and my heart goes out to those who aren't as fortunate.
I completely agree; too often convenience, tradition, and just plain ignorance result in unnecessary medical intervention. And I realize that the point of your posts is to share and educate about the possibility and beauty of natural birth. I didn't mean to suggest that someone shouldn't grieve the loss of a natural birth experience. If I ever give birth again, there are certainly things along that line that I hope for...I guess I was thinking about all those who might never have the chance to experience the birth they want--perhaps considering an alternate perspective might bring them more peace with their reality. Not that one experience is necessarily better or worse than another, but considering different viewpoints has surely helped me. Even as awful as my experience was in many ways, there are still good things that have come from it. No doubt that part is the same no matter what birth experience we have. :) Reading your blog has been so enjoyable!
thanks for stopping by my blog! so glad I got to see your video :) I had 2 csections too, the first one I actually had to be put under during my surgery and didnt get to hear if it was a boy or a girl (we didnt know) it was upsetting! I hope i can have a vbac one day!
Ok, so that made me cry. SO happy for you!
ReplyDeletei have never understood the pain a c-section can cause. i have always thought that as long as the baby gets here safely then all is well. watching you go through this, hearing your story, getting to hear my mom's story as well, i finally understand. i am amazed by your strength and determination. i could sense a peace about you the other day, a different paige than i have ever known, and i think this is the reason. i love you so much and i am so happy that you trusted your intuition, your body and most of all your dreams.
ReplyDeleteSuch a beautiful video. Thanks for sharing your experience. I'm so happy you were able to have the birth you wanted. :)
ReplyDeleteyup. It got me too. As you know I have also had the 2 c-sections. I've never gotten to experience laboring at all. With our (my husbands) decision not to have any more children I feel a sense of great sadness. A loss of something I was deprived. My c-sections were so devastating. I have had a hard time explaining this to him, and when I do it has been met with the logical answer of "we should not have another child to raise and pay for, and you to go through a bunch of pain and worry and babyhood again, just to try and get the outcome of a birth that you want". I see his point somewhat, but still.... my pain, anger, and resentment go on. So Paige, you rock the stratosphere sister! I am so glad for you. So glad. If you are able to blog about the peace you have found we would most love to read about it. :) *hugs*
ReplyDeleteFirst, congratulations! A thought that might enable those of you who have not had the birth experience you wanted to find more peace with it: Those of us who have never given birth to a live, healthy baby have a very different perspective. I gave birth to my daughter at 8 months, having known for the last 4 of those months that she would die. I would have gladly taken any kind of birth experience, whatever the pain or emotional consequences, if it had meant my daughter was born alive and healthy. I don't say this to make anyone feel bad--each of us has our own feelings based on our own experiences, and there is nothing wrong with any of those feelings. Each is valid. I post this only to offer a different perspective.
ReplyDeleteJennifer, I'm sorry to hear about your daughter. Of course all of us mothers would take any birth experience we were given if it were essential for the health of our baby. It doesn't mean that we can't or shouldn't grieve for the birth that we wanted and lost though. The problem is that so many doctors are actually putting baby's and mother's lives at risk by the common use of induction and cesarean. It is a proven fact that natural birth is safest choice for a normal pregnancy.
ReplyDeleteI do realize that I am extremely lucky to have healthy living children and my heart goes out to those who aren't as fortunate.
I completely agree; too often convenience, tradition, and just plain ignorance result in unnecessary medical intervention. And I realize that the point of your posts is to share and educate about the possibility and beauty of natural birth. I didn't mean to suggest that someone shouldn't grieve the loss of a natural birth experience. If I ever give birth again, there are certainly things along that line that I hope for...I guess I was thinking about all those who might never have the chance to experience the birth they want--perhaps considering an alternate perspective might bring them more peace with their reality. Not that one experience is necessarily better or worse than another, but considering different viewpoints has surely helped me. Even as awful as my experience was in many ways, there are still good things that have come from it. No doubt that part is the same no matter what birth experience we have. :) Reading your blog has been so enjoyable!
ReplyDeletePaige, what a gorgeous video. I'm so happy for you.
ReplyDeleteI cried too.
ReplyDeletethanks for stopping by my blog! so glad I got to see your video :) I had 2 csections too, the first one I actually had to be put under during my surgery and didnt get to hear if it was a boy or a girl (we didnt know) it was upsetting! I hope i can have a vbac one day!
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